Coping

Okays.. here's another interesting theory i learnt today.. this one's frm mental health thou.. Here goes..

Coping: In your opinion, after a breakup, do you think the male will be able to cope better or the female?

Hah! i see that your poor brain cells are dying for nothing.. u must be thinking the male will cope better cos they're usually task oriented and this kinda issue usually won't bother them. BUT on the other hand, females generally have higher EQ as compared to our male counterparts.. (face the fact guys..) therefore, theoretically the females shld be coping better isn't it?

Actually, how well a person can cope after the breakup is not determined by the sex.. haha.. rather, how the person was being brought up as a child. Individuals who are brought up with parents showering lotsa tender loving care generally can cope better. Example, when an infant feels hungry and keeps on crying, the parent immediately give him/her milk. Subsequently the child stops crying. Here we're looking at satisfaction, trust and sense of security. [According to Freud's developmental theory, the oral stage talks about an infant's pleasure centres being at the mouth.] Throughout the childhood, even up to adolescence, parents are there to provide care and support when the child needs it. This then create a great sense of security in that individual and hence, after the breakup, he/she does not feel lost. In fact, with the sense of security, they feel that there's no need to be dependent on the other person, they can live on their own.

Same theory applies on the other side of the story. If you were being brought up with ur parents always scolding you, beating you, there's no trust between the parent and the child. Therefore the child will not feel secure at all. So the child grows up with this sense of insecurity, and when something happens (read: breakup), they feel lost and plus the insecurity that was already there, they find it difficult to cope.

Well, the accuracy of this theory is still up to your discretion. But for me, its so true la. :)

I miss you baby..

我不想忘记你

Control

This is kinda interesting, logical at the same time. As it was mentioned during the psycho lecture yesterday, that control is just a perception. It is not real. In a sense, a person can feel that he/she is in control, being dominant, but can they control every single thing in this world? All these are just perceived thoughts. HOWEVER, it does make a person feel better [more like a coping mechanism thou]. Example, you think that you're in control of everything, but do you know whats gona happen to you the next day, or even the next moment? See what I mean? :)

Immediately when the lecturer talked about this, something came into my mind. It was one of those days when I was feeling lousy and talking to darling. Then she mentioned that I'm someone who has very good control of my life, as in I know what I want and I stand firm to my decision. Not exactly what she said but u know, the idea is there. Haha. Well, its true to a certain extent thou. If you look back on what I just said. Things didn't turn out exactly the way I wanted right?

Seriously, most times I just enjoy going with the flow, solve each problem as they come by. Its just too tormenting to speculate every single thing in life. It makes you age faster too, ain't it?

And the thing about perceived control. If it is real, then does it mean that you have the power to control someone else's life too? We all know the fact is otherwise. Thats also the reason why we feel so miserable at times, agree ya?

So, next time before you say that you're in control, or someone else is in control, think again ya. :)

Tomorrow i shall pack my room, my wardrobe and my shoe rack..

I'm gona be a good girl!

Hoho..

we shall see.. :D

Emergency Nurses (updated 28 oct)

How to survive working in an ED.

1) Walk fast.

2) Eat fast.

3) Work fast.

4) Talk fast.

5) Remain calm even when the sky falls on you.

6) Master the skill of working like an octopus.

*Thats all i can think of at the moment.. shall update if i can think of more.. haha.. going for class now.. ciaoz!

**added on by missy andie:

7)Shit fast

8)Think fast

9)Siam fast (for those bloody lazy arse who simply keep eating snake!!)

10)Kena complain oso very fast!![haha]

This is interesting. come on ppl, contribute more ideas!! lol!!

Updates!!

Okays i'm so not in the mood to blog nowadays.. tired, lazy, simply can't be bothered ya.. haha.. so we shall make it short n sweet..

School started!! finally.. heh~ wat can i say? its FUN FUN FUN!! haha.. till this point of time i shld say.. as u noe first week of sch usually they let u relax, adjust to sch life first before they really drill u.. so, yea.. first day of sch and we started straight on BTLS.. ITLS (International Trauma Life Support) now actually.. so we were doing the so called basic stuff la.. extrication is basic okays! imagine the later part.. *faints*

so during practice, while trying to "extricate" me from the "exploding car"[we're using real cars thou], my precious phone slipped from my pocket!! and smashed right onto the not-so-very-smooth floor.. *CRIES* now my phone has 2 ugly holes!!!! argh!!!

Otherwise i totally enjoyed class so far.. at first i was quite worried abt coping n stuff.. but i think i'm more or less back to the student me.. heh..




p.s. I miss DARLING!!!!! :(

FUCK YOUR BLOODY ARSE!! WHOEVER U ARE THAT WANTS ME N MY FAMILY DEAD!! TO THINK THAT U CAME UP WITH SUCH AN IDEA.. U FREAKING BASTARD!!! DONKEY ORIFICE!! ITS NO WONDER U SIT ON UR FACE!!! EAT N SHIT THRU THE SAME ORIFICE!!!! ARGH!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! KNN!!!

MAY UR MOTHER'S CHEE BYE ROT TO HELL!!!!!!


okays, i'm really pissed...

but still, i hafta thank God for everything.. remember i said God has His plans? thank God daddy's at home and using the com.. if not i wouldn't even dare to think wat might happen.. i jus think we're too lucky this time..